It can be tricky sometimes to tell if someone is lying to you. Behavioral experts, and those in law enforcement in particular, are trained in this area for professional reasons. As an ordinary person, you may want to know if someone is lying to you. There are some “tells” that can put you wise to whether someone is being truthful or not. The average person may not have the extensive training of a professional to spot a liar, but it’s not as difficult as you may think, if you know what to look for.
1) Over Explaining
When someone is lying or covering up the truth, they tend to ramble on in a lengthy “too much information” pattern. They will often repeat and review the details of their explanation. Sometimes, you may catch inconsistencies in those details if you have a keen ear and good memory. Experts advise that you ask an unexpected question during the liars lengthy explanation to trip them up. When caught off guard with a question they may not be prepared to answer, you will usually receive a pause in the conversation, or a knee-jerk defensive reaction. If you are face to face with this dishonest person, they may look up or away, searching for a response they weren’t prepared to give in their lengthy, detailed, untruthful account. Or, if they’re really good at it, they’ll quickly add another thread to their tale to make their false account appear seamless, and therefore true.